Comments on: If You Now Have More Reasons For Loving Your Spouse Than When You Got Married, What Are They?

By: mabuntle

mabuntle — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

wow i wish all men were like you
you know the saying “you dont know what you have till its gone?”
well thats me, my husband was wonderful, prayerful man, kind, forgiving etc.
we had some challenges and i left but now listening to people’s marital problems i can see i lost an angel
keep it up

By: Bar One

Bar One — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

Your 3 reasons are quite good. I can imagine reasons of my own but for me this is not the case and divorce is on the horizon.

By: Hard Truth

Hard Truth — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

Yes, there are things I learned to love about him that I didn’t know about when I married him. My butterflies haven’t flown off yet though

By: edward d

edward d — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

married 47 years and find
something new everyday

By: Proud_Ar

Proud_Ar — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

Well I STILL get butterflies when I see my husband. I know it sounds cheesy, but he just does that to me! I’ve come to appreciate him WAYYY more!
He’s been away for 15 months on a deployment to Iraq and I’ve come to realize that I need to cherish every single moment with him, more so than before.
My husband is a hard worker. I knew this before we got married. But through this deployment, I’ve come to learn just HOW GREAT of a soldier he truly is. He tells me about things that have happened over there and it makes me so proud to be married to my Hero.
I had 2 children from a previous relationship when I met my husband. he accepted them in the beginning and was very good with them. We got married shortly after. He got closer and closer to my children. He came to me later and asked if he could adopt my children. You can imagine how proud this made me that he’d want to make them a part of him and complete the family. Of course I said yes!!! The children love their daddy and wouldn’t change a thing! I wouldn’t have expected him to do something like this, but I’ve come to realize he’s a very noble man.
I knew he loved me when we got married, but have come to realize he truly does cherish our relationship and marriage. I could go on and on, but I’ll give someone else a chance to answer your question lol.

By: sheloves

sheloves — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

I don’t know where to start… I couldn’t have dreamed someone with more positive qualities..
I knew he was a good listener, but didn’t quite understand the depth of his committment to being “present” for people.
His stewardship towards the earth and all humanity is humbling. He’s concious of his impact on the world.
He doesn’t avoid conflict. When something isn’t right, he doesn’t ignore it, he works at finding clarity and understanding.
Of course, I knew all these things before we got married, but each day the qualities I love in him become more pronounced. I feel like the luckiest girl in the world..

By: Just Me :)

Just Me :) — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

Love can always grow more deeply over time if nurtured and cared for. You are asking something so personal and honest…it’s refreshing to see this take from a man’s view. To answer your question – my husband is the most giving man I have ever known when it comes to me; he is eager to please me in the bedroom and always puts my needs before his own; he knows from experience when I need to be left alone or to be held (this only comes from being together a long time); he is slow to begin new projects but always excels in the end; he is no mechanic but I have yet to see him start a task with a car and not complete it on his own; i have never seen him quit anything; he will not put up with or participate in any gossip; I may have to tell him something for a long period of time, but he always comes through for me; he’s getting more handsome as the years pass by (we are in our 10th year); he never interrupts when I am talking and listens with such intensity. I guess I could go on and on, but I need to end this at some point.
He completes me in every aspect.

By: Mrs. Schabby <3's Poker

Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:36 +0000

Sure, there are a few things about my husband that I love now more than when we first married. Granted, we’ve only been married for 2 1/2 years but I still love him more now than I did when we first married.
1. I think the biggest and foremost thing that has caused my love to grow for him is his admittance of a substance abuse problem I had no idea about. He admitted this to me (which was a huge hurdle) and has taken the steps to getting rid of the addiction to alcohol. He’s doing a marvelous job and our marriage is really thriving now. I think this has definitely caused a HUGE leap forward in our marriage because now the trust is growing. His attitude in general towards life and family are much different. He’s a wonderful man now and the personality traits that he once possessed that used to be an issue (temper, anger, emotional abuse, etc) were clearly caused by the alcohol because they no longer exist, thankfully.
2. I realize lately more than ever that he is a good man in the sense that he will do whatever he can to provide for his family. He tries his best to put food on the table and take care of us, and I greatly appreciate that.
3. Lastly, the way we show our love to one another has blossomed more so than it used to. We are learning how to show one another respect and consideration through daily action and expressing our love in ways other than just “I love you.” It really adds to the deepness of the bond, and I appreciate that so much.
We haven’t been together long enough for the butterflies to leave I guess; only 4 years. When he comes home sometimes I still get them, however a different kind of love is even now beginning to grow. You know, that kind of love that feels very deep-seated inside you like you don’t know how your life would be without that person? Like that. I can only imagine what that will be like after 22 years.

By: Valerie X Account #21

Valerie X Account #21 — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:35 +0000

1. No matter WHAT is going on, any problem he takes by the horns and leads us through it. he will go to ANY lengths to help fix ANYTHING, relationship-wise, or any other-wise…..
2. Money is NEVER an object to him….he always says, “money is not important to me” and provides and cares for ALL of our needs. He is in IT, and is always going back “to school” for certifications in the IT field, to improve his marketabilty, and earning capacity. He has provided a life FAR past any expectaions for a husband that I had before we were married……
3. He has this amazing “Us” mentality that I hold dear……he never says “Me” or “I” to people, he always presents himself only with union to his wife, the “Oneness” of two people……he always says, “Us” or “Me and my wife” and “We”…..example, “We think that Angus beef is good”, instead of, “I think that Angus beef is good”…..I LOVE how he does that all the time, it’s cute! : )
Anyway, I could go on and on…..my husband and I have been though MANY storms, and there were some years that were not so great, but the patchwork quilt of our years together would not look so complete and perfect without storms weathered together……we can look back together and say, “Wow! We got through that, TOGETHER!”….there is a real sense of satisfaction in staying together, and working through life’s problems and challenges as a team. No other woman in the world can EVER take my place, and no man in the world can ever take HIS rightful place either.
Good Question Happy 2……….

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best heating contractor in Buffalo and Williamsville NY — Sat, 07 Nov 2009 01:36:35 +0000

There are quite a few, but one main thing is what a wonderful father my husband turned out to be. I always knew he would be, but he surprised a lot of people on both sides of our family. Just watching him play with our son after he gets home from work instead of plopping in front of the TV makes me love him even more!